First thing about life coaches is, you need to be found by those you never met when they needyou. This starts with what I call roaming. Roaming is the seemingly pointless wander that takesyou exactly where you need to be. This roaming tends to be chock full of synchronicity events thatact as markers. It follows the "where the day takes you" philosophy. But even before that a Lifecoach has to have his own emotional baggage in check. For if you have too many open circuitslying about, one is about to short circuit. But then on the other hand a Life coach must have hadcertain amount of problems himself so he can associate with the person.
This some times createsthe right semantics to offer the words in the person's language that clicks and just makes the lightbeam in one's eyes. These situations are the most fruitful and effective. For a life coach must havea high intuitive nature, he might have the answers all the time. But the trick is to take theinformation that comes from without of your self on the issue at hand and deliver it with the rightwords, inflection, analogies, and to the right personality. I.e., are you talking to the shadow who ismoody and confrontational or the shadow, who only waits for you to be quiet so it can talk if it isnot already yelling over you. At which point you can only take on the armor of a saint and realizethat all the slings and arrows are pointed inward and not at you. Which time you can only validateand listen. Or are you talking to the ego who changes the subject when you get to close and breakits victim dialogue or just apt to ignore what you said by not responding or talking over you. INsome cases with egos like these, in rare cases, a life coach must take on the role of the scoldingparent.
Some times the scolding parent is the only one that had any ability to manipulate theperson. To take a bad thing and flip it into something positive, but to always speak from theiraspirations that you had gathered from their talks about loves, dreams, challenges, and bliss.Always followed up with genuine care and reassurance that there is no shame or blame leveledagainst the person. Shame, blame, and guilt is something that should be far removed from a lifecoach. You need the ability to look a serial killer in the face who has changed and truthful tellinghim it is OK. Forgiveness as long as change is present is key. For the person tends to be eatingthemselves whole from the inside already. As Augustine and Aquinas said, there is no true evil butlessor degrees of good. A life coach should never just be some cheerleader or motivational speaker, he must be like aparent to the person. The trick is to assess what age level of parenting does the person need, peerto peer parenting or parent to a loved four year old. To be a parent and not to be a parent. Nothingshould be black and white, in doing so you deny some ones existence. The subjective mattershould always be, at least a life coach should try, only on a positive connection to life andsupportive. If that can not be had, then the subjective nature should be removed.
A keyimportance for the life coach to know is that it is never about them. The directive part should bedirected at the spirit when the person is calm and collective and at ease with you. Lots of time theego is stuck in its victim role, this is a good time just to listen until you hear the patterns repeatthemselves. Listen until the least common denometer can be found. Listen then at a minimum tokeep abreast of the current history, but to much just enables the person to continue habits.
This some times createsthe right semantics to offer the words in the person's language that clicks and just makes the lightbeam in one's eyes. These situations are the most fruitful and effective. For a life coach must havea high intuitive nature, he might have the answers all the time. But the trick is to take theinformation that comes from without of your self on the issue at hand and deliver it with the rightwords, inflection, analogies, and to the right personality. I.e., are you talking to the shadow who ismoody and confrontational or the shadow, who only waits for you to be quiet so it can talk if it isnot already yelling over you. At which point you can only take on the armor of a saint and realizethat all the slings and arrows are pointed inward and not at you. Which time you can only validateand listen. Or are you talking to the ego who changes the subject when you get to close and breakits victim dialogue or just apt to ignore what you said by not responding or talking over you. INsome cases with egos like these, in rare cases, a life coach must take on the role of the scoldingparent.
Some times the scolding parent is the only one that had any ability to manipulate theperson. To take a bad thing and flip it into something positive, but to always speak from theiraspirations that you had gathered from their talks about loves, dreams, challenges, and bliss.Always followed up with genuine care and reassurance that there is no shame or blame leveledagainst the person. Shame, blame, and guilt is something that should be far removed from a lifecoach. You need the ability to look a serial killer in the face who has changed and truthful tellinghim it is OK. Forgiveness as long as change is present is key. For the person tends to be eatingthemselves whole from the inside already. As Augustine and Aquinas said, there is no true evil butlessor degrees of good. A life coach should never just be some cheerleader or motivational speaker, he must be like aparent to the person. The trick is to assess what age level of parenting does the person need, peerto peer parenting or parent to a loved four year old. To be a parent and not to be a parent. Nothingshould be black and white, in doing so you deny some ones existence. The subjective mattershould always be, at least a life coach should try, only on a positive connection to life andsupportive. If that can not be had, then the subjective nature should be removed.
A keyimportance for the life coach to know is that it is never about them. The directive part should bedirected at the spirit when the person is calm and collective and at ease with you. Lots of time theego is stuck in its victim role, this is a good time just to listen until you hear the patterns repeatthemselves. Listen until the least common denometer can be found. Listen then at a minimum tokeep abreast of the current history, but to much just enables the person to continue habits.
